Question by ♥CJ♥: How do I ask my friend to let me stay with her until I can find work?
I never thought I’d want a roommate but I wanted to live with my friend who is a doctor. She is very nice and easygoing like me so we click well. It was my idea to live with her at first since I got a temp job at a clinic in that area. I was initially hired last summer but did not start til this yr (bullcrap, I know). My friend has been wanting me to move in with her for several months now and I was uneasy about it for a few reasons mainly I wanted secure income or at least enough money saved to move in. I was working near where she lived but that was a temp job that I wanted to quit but tried to stay (it was an open position with no determined time line) Basically that job was a joke I was NEVER trained to do the job I was hired for (Patient Coordinator) and ended up doing something else (Medical Billing Clerk/receptionist). The assignment ended in April. Since then, I haven’t been able to find anything in my area where I live. I have applied for any office job even hotel clerk jobs which isn’t my preference but a job is a job at this point.

I’ve gotten job leads but they are usually too far and I have bad credit (student loans, small credit debt) so its harder to find a decent career job. I have a Bachelor’s degree but it hasn’t helped me much in terms of finding work so now I feel like I have no choice but to do temp work to gain exp. I cannot fix my debt issue unless I have steady income. I don’t get unemployment benefits. My birthday recently passed and I have been basically pinching off the little b-day money I received to keep gas in the car, buy necessities and food.

Another issue is my dad was recently released from the mental hospital and my mother wants a break so she plans to leave for two months. I already know my dad will start complaining about me not working sooner or later so I feel a lot of pressure. I am always applying to jobs and I get interviews but usually they feel either I’m overqualified (b/c of degree) or don’t have enough exp. When I omit my degree is when I can get an interview easiest. I think they assume I will quit or want more money but that’s not true. I need steady work, I want to grow within the company. I graduated college at 21 and didnt get a job until a year later at a correctional facility . I am now in my mid 20s and live with my parents which is depressing after living in my own apartment while in college. I really want to move out but with no $ $ I’d rather not move in (most of the money I earned at last job used to fix up my dad’s car he “gave” me so I could drive it, I still need to pay for insurance too its not cheap either because its a luxury car so it costs a lot to maintain). I don’t know what to do. I feel like I have nothing to lose.

If my folks get mad, they can always kick me out then what? I would be homeless God forbid. So I got to do something. Trust me I look for work daily but its always the same issue. I even volunteer often so I can network and potentially get positive referals. I really want to work in the non-profit/social services sector but there are limited opportunities where I live so perhaps moving is my best bet. She is close to the locations that will have more career positions for someone with my background. Its a matter of convincing her to let me stay maybe if I explained my situation she would understand idk but I got to do something FAST. I know she could use the money so she can eventually move out as well. She decided to renew her lease til January 2012. Hopefully she didn’t get a new roommate just yet. I also am a bit concerned if I don’t move on it she will probably just find someone else to move in I understand that I would not be “moving in” by any means until I had steady employment but staying with her for a week or so just to see how it is and do job hunting there might be better for me idk,…

Best answer:

Answer by juicy-couture
um i wouldnt stay with her, that is weird and….i mean she has a job and probably doesnt want someone to stay in her house/ or apartment with someone else…. that is rude to ask someone that unless they ask u….

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